I don’t agree with everything D’Andra says, but there are so many good questions here!
I’m curious to know what you think…women and MEN.
Is it a turn-on or a turn-off when someone posts a photo of your first date on social media? Does it look needy? Is it moving too fast?
Dallas has to be the mecca of super revealing dresses…is “showing it off” a good look for women or not?
And the “walk of shame”…is it always a bad idea?
Let me know what YOU think of this Doing It Digitally…Best Dating Practices with D’Andra in the comments below.
What Men Want: Part Two
7. Social Media—there is NONE at this point in the relationship, just know that! There is NO phone checking on the date, NO Facebook, NO Twitter or Instagram posting about the date or other titillating information during this time, and certainly NO mention of HIS social media pages or that you have even checked them out! Don’t ask about photos of women or any information you might have gleaned from perusing his social media accounts. Don’t friend him when you get home either, or before the date. Let him pursue you, and this means sending YOU a friend request!
8. Dress for success and this means while dating! Most women know exactly what I mean when I say “professional attire.” There isn’t much room for extrapolating on this direction. When dating you need to think of it as a job interview. You are interviewing him and he is interviewing you. You are interviewing for the job of wife and he husband, or long term partnership or some iteration thereof (whatever you wish to call it). Therefore, it should go without saying that you should dress appropriately and this DOES NOT mean provocatively if you want to find a good solid guy! Leave something to the imagination, namely what you will look like when your clothes are off and he is in a committed relationship with you. This should be something he cherishes and something he and you look forward to. Would you like to get a present that was unwrapped? That would be unfair right? Well, that is what you are doing when you “let it all hang out” meaning your breasts, butt and everything else that should be covered if you were say, at a job interview! If you show him what is under the wrapping paper from day one, then he has nothing to imagine and wait for and hope for when he is solely committed to you and you alone! Plus, the bottom line is men do not want other men seeing what is theirs, and most often it embarrasses them when their wife or girlfriend shows the goods by dressing inappropriately
Let’s just leave it at that and let your imagination take you away, which is more than most men are getting the privilege of these days!
9. Don’t get intoxicated. I think it goes without saying that not only can you embarrass yourself on a first date or a first few dates, you could end up raped or dead or a host of other imaginable and unimaginable horrors. Keep your drinking in check. Most men don’t want to bring home Lindsay Lohan to meet the parents, and a walk of shame, while funny, almost never ends up in a loving committed long term relationship.
10. Speaking of walks of shame…don’t go home with your date or invite him into your house when he drops you off at the end of your date. This is a new relationship and only when you demand respect from a man will he respect you. This means saying good night at the door and a kiss on the cheek if the date went well. Breeze in your front door like you have the world on a string and close it behind you and move away from it, preferably far away! This is not a time to reenact a scene from Ghost! If a man likes you he will respect you for ending the date in a classy way and will ask you out again because remember, he’s curious. You were light in conversation, easy to be with and not an open book. He’s on chapter one and has many more chapters to go that he’s looking forward to with sheer delight!
If you missed Part One, here’s the link: What Men Want: Do You Have It?
D’Andra Simmons is a businesswoman and philanthropist. She is the founder of Hard Night Good Morning Skincare and an active volunteer for the Dallas community serving on the Advisory Board of Booker T. Washington School for the Performing Arts, volunteering with the Junior League of Dallas, AIDS Services of Dallas or Cattle Baron’s Ball for the American Cancer Society.