That got my attention! Here’s ‘DOING IT DIGITALLY…
BEST DATING PRACTICES WITH D’ANDRA & DEE’…
To text or not to text…that is the question…
Jane posed the question about texting for a date which started a lively discussion this week. Is it EVER proper to text someone for a date? Mom and I have a 28 year generation gap in our age, but we both oddly feel the same about what is proper etiquette when asking a person for a date…first, second, third—you get the picture! My husband STILL asks me out on a date in person or calls me on the phone and I love this about our relationship.
You should ALWAYS pick up the phone and make the call to invite someone out on a date. This keeps courtship interesting, romantic and exciting, plus it shows the other person that you care enough to take the time to call them. Let’s face it! We are all very busy these days and bombarded with outside stimuli from everywhere. You shouldn’t use the “I was too busy” excuse when you are seriously trying to choose a mate.
And what does that say about the recipient of your rude treatment, that he or she would take this type of crap from someone? We are all worth much more than “I was too busy?” Women and men that put up with this type of behavior from the beginning will always be in the same type of relationship, and it will always be one-sided…in the bad behaving person’s favor. And the person who allows this type of relationship to evolve will always be begging for more in the coupling, making excuses for the person out of sheer desperation of being alone, and in general, grasping for a relationship they want, but will never have, because they didn’t demand it from the start. The beginning is the future; remember that when you step out into unchartered territory with a new dating prospect.
It takes time to call AND to text, but one method shows respect and the other shows a flippant attitude about the whole process. Let’s face it, if you are too busy to call someone and ask them out on a date, then what does that say about your time in general? Should you really be pursuing a relationship if you are THAT busy? If you, on the other hand, accept this type of dating relationship then what does that say about your own self esteem? Texting SCREAMS booty call! Let’s just leave it at that.
I’m not sure I agree with everything D’Andra and Dee said, but I do think they make some good points…like “The beginning is the future”…
What do you think about texting for a date? Convenient? Or a booty call? Tell us in the comments below,
D’Andra Simmons is a businesswoman and philanthropist. She is the founder of Hard Night Good Morning Skincare and an active volunteer for the Dallas community serving on the Advisory Board of Booker T. Washington School for the Performing Arts, volunteering with the Junior League of Dallas, AIDS Services of Dallas or Cattle Baron’s Ball for the American Cancer Society.
Dee Simmons is a renowned author, television and radio personality, nutrition expert, and cancer survivor. Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1987, Dee “took charge” of her life and her health and began a journey to obtain the knowledge to prevent her cancer from reoccurring. Dee Simmons is the Founder and Chairman of the highly respected nutritional supplement and skin care company, Ultimate Living International.
In my opinion, yes texting is a booty call. I have even experienced it. When a guy calls and talks to me, they actually would ask to go on a date, but when that same guy would text me, it would be good nothing more than, “hey, what are you doing? Are you busy tonight? You want to come over? Can I come over?” That’s it. You say no, there is no more texting. They are done. You can try and keep texting them about how their day was, etc…. They will all of a sudden be too busy to text back.
Probably best to let those got on their way Monica:)
I do agree with Dee and D’Andra. I don’t think texting for a date is proper at all. Take time and make the call. If you think texting for a date is okay, I guess you think a group text message would be proper for a wedding invitation too. hummm
lol Marian 🙂
‘Booty call’
That’s when women text men at 2 a.m.
just as the lights go out at the bars.
This is not a hyperbole, but fact.
I have seen women doing it many times.
I think texting for a date, has pros and cons.
If the recepiant responds with a no, the messenger does not have to see their facial expressions.
Which can be disappointing at times.
In short, the feeling of (rejection.)
I personally make the call, after I have baited the woman with a few text messages. Lol
Again, ‘booty call’ is 2-2:30 a.m.
Jane, I’m real. Lol
Yes you are Mike and I hope you’ll comment more. SRSLY on the women texting at 2 a.m. thing????
Yes Jane, SRSLY… 2-on.
But, who knows, it might not have been a ‘booty’ call.
It could have been, hey honey/babe, can I come over for milk and cookies. 🙂
Sure, lol.!
Completely agree. I guess I am an old fashioned girl but I like a gentleman to make the effort to call me and ask. These days … We have such an instant society.. And an impersonal manner when it comes to basic etiquette … It is nice to hear a voice that truly wants my company.
Thanks for weighing in Randi, isn’t their column fun? Love those two, D’Andra and Dee:)
Texting is impersonal and noncommittal. It seems as though it is the way people pretend that they are making an effort in our world today without really having to make any effort at all. It’s a “hiding place” for our generation and future generations. This is not the letter writing that our grandparents shared, it is a cop out and fairly cowardice. Texters don’t have to risk “real” rejection if they don’t actually speak with the person. I get it, it’s scary to be single and risk being hurt, but I personally would rather hear a voice on the other end. There’s something very personal about spending a few one on one minutes on the phone with someone in this day and age. Texting was implemented into mainstream usage in the early 90s for people to communicate with each other affordably while traveling internationally. Unless I’m out of the country…just call me.
Pretty much agree with everything you said with everything you said Kim, thanks for commenting!
I will take this interesting topic and extrapolate it to the entire dating chemistry… EVERYTHING is important, essential, in dating, all the details… the Romanticism doesn’t not have a measurement scale nor a recipe manual of advises, it it profoundly natural, inherited from Cupid, it is coming from inside like an anxious and impatient wave, but delightful and sensual, it is spontaneous, erotical in its essence, playful, beautifully immature and pure, fresh, warm, creative, mysterious, full of surprise, unique, divine… It is an endless romantic foreplay with love…
Thanks so much for commenting Radu, I appreciate your thoughts, Jane
Thank you Jane
I agree with D’Andra and Dee — texting is impersonal and easy. I love it when a man calls for a date. He is much more likely to get a ‘yes’.
If only they knew that Teia! LOL