You’re a night person and he’s an early riser…
or he likes to stay up late and 5 a.m. is your best time of day. We all have different sleep patterns…but how important is it to your relationship that you go to bed together?
I recently read a study that said going to bed together is key to a relationship…because that’s when togetherness occurs…intimate talks…maybe even just laughter you don’t have time for during the rest of the day.
So tell me what you think, and what you do.
How often do you and your partner go to bed at the same time? Do you think it’s an important part of your relationship?
Please answer in the poll and then leave your comments after that, either in the poll or in the comment section of this post.
My husband & I go to bed at the same time, read the Bible & pray.
He usually gets up after that and reads. I go straight to sleep.
Sounds like a pretty good routine, Lori:)
Thank you ,Lori. My wife and I should do this more often. She wants me to become mor spiritual. I should I am a deacon. But I will be the only one reading Bible, hers are in Braille. We have been married for 30 years.
Hi James, congratulations on your long marriage, and thank you for commenting!
It started when my snoring got bad and she had to be up at 5 AM.
That happens Jack 🙁
Jack, I used to get up and go sleep on the couch when my husband started snoring. Then I talked him into getting one of those sleep tests done, and they gave him a CPAP machine. Not only am I sleeping better, but he is, too! He was always tired, because the snoring was even keeping him from going into a deep sleep. Now he feels rested every morning. You should check into that. It could be a marriage saver!
That’s what I hear!
We go to be at the same time every night and watch the opening jokes of a late night TV program, then turn the TV off and go to sleep. Sometimes if I can’t sleep I get up for a while and then go back to bed, usually that works.
Me too Yolanda 🙂
Me three, Yolanda!
When you go to bed at the same time there is usually not that “you woke me up – you kept me awake issue.”
I have 11 week old twins. Sleep?!? I wish. Husband takes our 5 year old to bed at 8:30 and then I’m on feeding/changing/trying to get babies to sleep duty before it all starts again in a few hours. He sleeps in another room until we can get the babies sleep trained. Works for me. I hate waking him up. One of us needs to be functioning.
I don’t know how you do it Jamie, congratulations:)
Typically when we dont go to bed together at the same time, it’s because he fell asleep on the couch and I went to bed not wanting to wake him up. Except for nighttime NFL football games that run late. Occasionally I go on to bed and let him finish watching the game.
That’s what lots of other folks said too Kim 🙂
For the last few yrs. I have pretty much slept alone. Was a Single Parent to my HS Daughter. But my Ex always told me, I always slept the BEST, had meaningful convo & had great Bed Gymnastics w/her, after I worked out or rode my Bike each night. As it was, my Mother always said I was Nocturnal! Guess those Endorphins got the best of me??
Maybe Mom was right Gerry
Well as you know working on the railroad I have screwy hours. But when I’m home we always try to go to bed together. That’s how we’ve stayed married for 28 years come Nov.8th. This is when we laugh the most and get our cuddling in.
Good for you Robert:)
The Mrs. and I always go to bed together. Our routine is to watch the news together. After the news we usually share some small talk until we get sleepy. We always have that kiss goodnight. Recipe for success to our 30+ years of marriage.
So happy for you Mark:)
We try to go to bed at the same time every night. That’s not to say that we both don’t get up later and sneak down to the kitchen for snacks!, bad habit, I know!
Haha nothing wrong with that Tammy!
My husband and I are only 50 but we sleep in separate bedrooms. There are a couple of legitimate reasons. (1) He snores like a freight train (even had a deviated septum surgery a year ago) (2) We have a special needs daughter so I stay up late to give her meds; he gets up early for a typical work day (8 am to 6:30 pm). (3) I’m a late-night person anyway (4) I started migrating to the middle of the king-sized bed when he left so it’s difficult when we do stay together.
I don’t think it’s really that big of a deal. We get along great. We’re as well-rested as we will ever be with our busy lifestyles. We would love to sleep in the same room — but most importantly, we make conjugal visits. What used to be the tap on the shoulder may now arrive via text message. That makes it fun and interesting. : )
It sounds like you have a great formula that works for you Angela:)
Married 37 years. Started snorring a few years ago and moved to another bedroom. Had the surgery for that and then another procedure, which has still not corrected the problem (those ads that say office procedure and you’re done….don’t believe it). We often end the evening listening to John Stewart before retiring for the evening.
That’s not a bad way to end the evening Mark. Thanks so much for commenting!
I’m a night person, she goes to bed a little after 9. That’s when I go to bed. Otherwise, no cuddling.
Sounds ok to me David!
You have touched on a topic that has been the subject of many discussions for this 50ish couple. My wife and I are complete opposites when it comes to “bedtime”. We are night and day literally. I work nights and she works days. It really does give special meaning to the phrase TGIF!
Lol thanks Roger:)