You might ask, “feminine enough for who?”  When I wrote about this on my social media, it got one of the largest responses ever, so I wanted to share the story behind it.

I wrote that I’ve always had a fantasy about being a full time wife and mother. I know that may sound funny coming from a woman who has worked outside the home every day of her adult life, and it’s easy for me to say, because I have a rewarding career that I enjoy and appreciate. But I thought it was worth bringing up because it goes to the heart of a larger issue;  I see more women than ever before these days dissatisfied with their personal lives, specifically their relationships with men.  
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I don’t actually want to not have a career, but as we enter #womenshistorymonth, I ask the question: where do you fit “feminine” into your life? I’m talking about the “divine feminine”;  the receiving, loving, nurturing side of you that we all, both women and men, have the capacity for. Oddly enough, it’s often women these days I see having difficulty making room for it in their lives. 
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There’s a whole movement among young women who “don’t need a man”. It’s as if we’ve come to view dependence of any kind as bad. But all women, and men, need dependence on one another. I believe there is a basic human need for love, intimacy and connection. I think sometimes “I don’t need a man” is code for “I’m tired of getting hurt”, which is understandable but doesn’t solve the problem. A healthy woman with healthy self-love can risk being vulnerable, even dependent; she can risk rejection knowing she will recover.
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There’s a difference between “needing” a relationship and “wanting” one and a good relationship requires giving, and receiving, in the most “feminine” sense of the word. My fantasy about being a full time wife or mother deals with that basic biological desire, I believe, to express the feminine side, to be appreciated in that way. And I think it’s important to find a way to fit it in.

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So I’m curious, how do you feel about where women are right now? Are you happy with your career and personal relationship life? What could be better for women these days? 

 

Much love,

 

 


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